Newborn crying: all you need to know
Crying is the only way for babies to express themselves. But as parents, it is not always easy to interpret them. Here are some explanations and tips to help you cope with your toddler’s tears.
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Newborn crying, inexplicable and inconsolable
It’s disarming. Every night at the same time, between dog and wolf, the toddler cries to split the soul, long and loud… Trying even to get along, as the power of the cry of this little being covers the entire space of its decibels (90 says, like a jackhammer!). Doctors, very often consulted for these inconsolable tears of less than three months – the famous colics – feel helpless. And incompetent parents. ” Normal, he makes his lungs, ” say fatalists. And the others, less understanding: ” It’s a whim! Let him cry; he will not pee … ”
Baby cries, like an umbilical cord
These tears, which are excessive and so difficult to understand, sometimes lasting for three hours a day, nevertheless have a meaning. ” We have the feeling that they are part of this pathology of adaptation to the extra-uterine life that reflects the imperatives of survival of the baby, totally dependent on his mother, ” says Dr. Bedouret. A small mammal is so fragile that he has to force his cry to be heard when the puppy or kitten are content to whine weakly. ” It is through this sonorous umbilical cord that he sets the foundations of tuning with his mother, essential to get by in this life. Especially before three months, the important period of colic, while it is still fragileExplains Elodie Ballion. She runs “Tears listening workshops” in the region of Arcachon, to teach young parents and also early childhood professionals to better understand and accept these manifestations of sound communication babies under 18 months. ” Rich in meaning … and even hormones! “, she says.
Newborn crying, full tears … of hormones
Studies conducted by Aletha Solter, an American biologist, a pupil of Jean Piaget in Switzerland, with whom Elodie Ballion trained for these workshops, showed that babies’ tears of emotion and tension were rich in cortisol and adrenaline, especially. However, these hormones testify to a body’s response to stress, while those that are triggered by mechanical aggression such as a piece of onion or smoke, contain only water and salt. This is to say the physical and emotional load of these tears of communication. Tears are a real way out for these hormones once they finish playing their role in the body. With these scientific discoveries, we realize that ‘we are far from caprice or the simple need to unfold its pulmonary alveoli …
Newborn crying, a request for attention
Faced with these usual cries of adaptation, no drugs, nor even breast or bottle, let alone the pacifier system to silence! ” All these answers are unsuitable. And these are just ways to control the crying, not to listen to them, says Elodie Ballion. Like the famous rule of “let cry progressive” for 5, 10, then 15 minutes … We must be cautious about what the baby wants to say because there is always a moment when he catches the eye of the adult to tell him “Thank you, you understood me! In our workshops, we want to help parents to wait for this last look, to immerse themselves, at the end of the emotional discharge, this feeling of well-being overflowing in their baby.” Anyway, let him cry, depressed mom… Confirms Dr. Bedouret.
Good ideas for weathering: swaddle the baby in a suitable position – thighs frog – the bear in a sling special or arms while strolling the rock a little, the u gently massage the belly, singing and talk to him softly … without the assault of stimulation that will annoy him more than anything else. Stay tuned; it will cost you less energy than looking for a way to stop her crying. “And if you, Mom, have a hard time keeping up, if necessary leave the room and ask Dad to take over the time to recover a little. And if it’s tough and you’re worried about it, ask a doctor or other health professional (pharmacist, nursery nurse, PMI staff …), “advises Dr. Bedouret. ” This time of listening to the crying of the child, to say anything of mothering, will become for you real hygiene of life. It will decrease over time because the baby will have less and less need, “concludes Elodie Ballion.
Crying in general without gravity
All crying is not only to be interpreted as manifestations of the baby’s adaptation efforts. Some show real discomfort. They may be due merely to hunger, thirst, a dirty diaper, but also to a particular stress, created by the environment (a radio that works too hard, tensions within the family …). They can also be caused by transient digestive problems, a stuffy nose, irritated buttocks, etc. They must be calm, but they must not alarm you . Especially if your baby is eating and drinking, does not vomit, his stools are reasonable and his diapers wet, and he has no fever. Or if, apart from this occasional crisis of tears, he plays and smiles. And even if your child is a chronic whiner and angry recidivist, but leads his merry way on his growth charts, you do not need to trigger the emergency plan!
Newborn crying: how to recognize alarming crises
Other crying crises are caused by diseases, usually commonplace, but can sometimes be more severe and require emergency consultation. Thus, disasters that are too frequent and persistent are often the expression of more or less severe pain, caused by diseases such as otitis (especially at night, lying down which increases the pain), pyelonephritis, bronchiolitis …
In these latter cases, there is no risk of confusion because the child has other symptoms: fever, agitation or depression, plaques or pimples, diarrhea, vomiting, difficulty breathing … If gastro-oesophageal reflux is suspected – well different from the banal small regurgitations – which would be caused by an intolerance to cow’s milk proteins, the baby cries a lot, stiffening back, about an hour and a half after his meal, regurgitating abundantly. He often refuses his bottles crying, and has a lot of difficulties swallowing. But beware, it is far from always proven, and before reaching this conclusion, it is necessary that the doctor makes the diagnosis itself. For it is he alone who will decide whether the child needs additional tests, to change milk, or prescribe, possibly, specific drugs.
Very different are the crises of great crying, up to the loss of consciousness sometimes, due to severe pathologies: for example constipation rebellious with occlusion, a strangulated inguinal hernia, an acute intussusception, a bone trauma, an anal fissure, a neurological pain, a burn … ” These acute crying, really very excessive, paroxysmal, prolonged, require an emergency consultation,” Says Dr. Bedouret. ” Paradoxically, just as serious is the crises of crying very attenuated when the child is pale, all soft, prostate, and groan … ”
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