How can I react if my child gets lost in the crowd?
The market, supermarket, station …: a moment of inattention in these happy places may suffice to lose eyes your child! What to do when this happens? Moreover, what to tell him when you find him? Our advice.
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How does a child feel when he realizes that he is lost? Moreover, his parents?
- Anxiety! On the side of the child, it will be all the stronger as it will be drowned in a crowd in which it will not distinguish any known face. Some kids will then burst into tears or howl and thus attract attention. Others, on the contrary, say nothing and start searching in every direction. It may be that nobody notices them.
- For their part, the parents have a dazzling adrenaline rush, and their minds are immediately crossed by questions: has my child left alone? Was it recovered? Where do you start looking? We can speak of a real state of shock, to which we are not all equal.
- Panic loses the means of some, while others do not allow themselves to overflow and manage to behave more adjusted to the situation.
What to do when you lose your child eyes in a crowd?
- The best thing to do is to stop as many passersby as possible by calling them without hesitation: “I have lost my child, help me.” It is necessary to describe it and send the people who want to assist you in different directions, fixing a meeting point: “My child is four years old, hair like this, a coat of such color, etc., we find ourselves in this place … “
- The research will be easier in enclosed spaces (vast areas for example) than on the market or, worse, a beach. In summer, on a beach stretching as far as the eye can see, a child can easily lose himself: it is enough that it drifts a little while bathing and leaves the water 30 m further than its towel for lose his bearings … Everyone is alike, in a swimsuit!
- Nice to know: a child lost on a beach will always start walking back to the sun.
Once the child is found, the parents sometimes have strange reactions …
- Yes ! We can burst into tears like distributing slaps! Many adults say, “I did not recognize myself.” Why? It depends of course on the character of each one but also on his state of mind at the moment when the child is found.
- For the anguish of the adult can be mingled with anger (“I told him not to leave me, he does it at his head, he never obeys me!”), explains some explosions, including physical, during the reunion.
- Others will unconsciously identify the child with the anxiety experienced and punish him for having also scared them. It must also be admitted that finding a child with his mouth in his heart, his eyes riveted on the toy that attracted him, without consciousness of having been lost, irritates – even if it is better for the child!
How to handle this big emotion?
- At the moment, it can be challenging to control oneself … On the other hand, once the calm returns, it is essential to take things back with the child. We must let him speak so that he expresses what he has experienced and felt, without minimizing by phrases such as “It is over, it is over” or “We should not be afraid.” His emotions, whatever they may be, are legitimate.
- Going back on what happened was also important for adults. Thus, if one has got carried away and has been sharply reprimanded his child, one can say to him: “We were afraid both, eh? I was so anxious that I could not do anything but scold you when I found you, etc. “
- On the other hand, if the event invariably returns to all the conversations long afterward, it will be good to address the third party: the anguish lived must have awakened something else.
Do we not tend to dramatize and trouble our children by hearing the terrible news?
Perhaps … However, it is natural enough not to feel safe in a crowd, even if this feeling is differently shared by parents. Rather than thinking of different facts, which are extremely rare, one must bear in mind that a lost child is in the vast majority of cases noticed by caring adults who help him find his parents.
What instructions to give to her child?
“If you lose yourself, you do not leave the place where you are: me; I am tall, I see farther and higher. It is up to me to look for you. You can call an adult and tell him to help you find your family. “The older ones know your cell phone number and will call you.